The Primal Wound Free Pdf

ISBN: 0963648004
Title: The Primal Wound Pdf Understanding the Adopted Child
Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Published Date: 1993
Page: 231

The Primal Wound is a book which is revolutionizing the way we think about adoption. In its application of information about pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding, and loss, it clarifies the effects of separation from the birth mother on adopted children. In addition, it gives those children, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. Since its original publication in 1993, The Primal Wound has become a classic in adoption literature and is considered the adoptees' bible. The insight which is brought to the experiences of abandonment and loss will contribute not only to the healing of adoptees, adoptive families, and birth parents, but will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has ever felt abandoned.

Most outrageous, sensationalized book that does huge disservice to adoptees! As a psychotherapist and mom by adoption, I knew of this book. For many years, I refused to read it. My reasons were misguided so I decided to read it. Or the parts I could tolerate. This book is just flat out wrong. It is written from a very subjective place, not based in actual facts. Even attachment theory says that a child’s bonding and attachment will statistically be the same no matter whom their attachment figure is. This is not to say that adoption has no impact because it certainly can. But it varies so much from one adoptee to the next. The suggestion that adoption equals abandonment and the child learns that love equals abandonment is the most outrageous statement of all. I adopted my son from birth. I was the first one to have any human contact with, right out of the womb. He also had much time with his birth mother. Our adoption is open and a wonderful balance. Although I will say the bonding process is different, I am completely bonded to my son as is he. I feel for the experience of her adopted child but this improper generalization does a disservice to adoptees. I would not suggest this book to anyone.THANK YOU FOR THIS BOOK!!! I knew I had some subconscious or unconscious "issues" from having been adopted, but I didn't truly understand them until I read this book. If you are adopted, get this book. If you have adopted children - or are even thinking about doing so - get this book. I learned a lot about myself while reading this - it explained a lot of my behavior as a child, and even as an adult. Being adopted IS traumatic, no matter what age it happens at - I was adopted as a baby, but still had issues because of it. My parents used to tell me that I was "chosen," and while they were trying to make me feel good and "special," it always made me sad to hear. Not because I didn't like my adoptive parents, but because - even as a child - I knew inside somewhere that to be "chosen," I first had to be given away. I didn't understand those sad feelings as a child, but thanks to this book, I understand them now.Extremely discouraging, incredibly biased, jaded and one sided... I was initially excited to read this book but that quickly turned into absolute disappointment, there are several items that I cannot get past and even disagree with the author on certain subjects. I can also admit that it does have a few good points but they are all overshadowed by the author’s condescending tone and disparaging remarks about being an adoptive parent. The author is incredibly discouraging toward the adoption process in general. The book is incredibly biased, jaded and one sided. Perhaps it is slanted that way because of the author’s own troubled experiences with her adopted child, however her personal opinions are treated as facts throughout the book, and this is another concern for me personally. Several of the author’s statements that are not true or verifiable as the book seems unbalanced and speaks in near absolutes. Her conclusions throughout the book are unsupported yet absolute, her supporting ‘evidence’ for her arguments are either her personal experiences, biased observations, or selected anecdotes.Reading the book makes the adoptive parent feel as though they are not and will never be able to provide enough of a supportive and loving family environment for a child and I can only imagine that it makes an adoptee feel as though they are a victim of adoption with a horrible wound that will never heal, this revelation somehow does not seem at all therapeutic to me at all. Throughout the book she states with certainty that any child born via a surrogate mother will have a primal wound, as well as a child who was in the NICU, or an adopted child, and she starts to hint that she believes that children whose mothers work full time are going to have primal wounds as well.Again, I feel like the book did have a few good points, but If you are going to read a book on this topic, perhaps there is another similar book that is more well-rounded, unbiased and encouraging that would benefit the adoptive parents understanding of the subject, the adoptive child, and the birth mother/birth family. I personally found “The Connected Child” to be a much more uplifting and inspirational read that addresses the adoption of a child who’s experienced early loss of a birth parent through a more hopeful and adoption-positive light with the emphasis that adoptive parents can help bring hope and healing to a child.I do not ever really feel compelled to write reviews on anything but this is one book that I feel I must caution others about reading. The only reason that this book gets a one-star review from me is due to the simple fact that I cannot select a 0 star rating or less.

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